Letting Go With Love (video)

Posted on July 10, 2009. Filed under: Life, Love | Tags: , , |

Letting go of a relationship is often done in ways that are painful and lack intelligence. It is done destructively and unconsciously through fault finding and blame naming. And most of all it dishonors the good that was there for all the time the relationship was great.

I believe that there really is a time and a season and a purpose. I believe that people know when it is time to let go. They ignore it. They don’t want to know. They hate confrontation. They hate endings. But they know.

Endings are beginnings and how you end a relationship is really important because the memories will be attached to the ending. And the ending will create energy for new beginnings. Letting go with love is the only conscious choice for people who live in and come from the heart in everything they do. Nothing else fits. Nothing else really works.

Yes, it is hard. It is hard because no one wants to be the one to cause pain and if you cause the pain you can’t fix the pain. The other has to do it themselves. We are feeling beings. It is hurtful when you can’t talk to someone who has been your friend for years. But the friendship has to go on hold because people need to heal. That can take time. Not because anyone was wrong either but rather because we need to let go. So a wall goes up for a while and people learn to refocus. It is like anesthesia. (People who really love each other will always be friends in the end. Actually, it is a good test.)

What you can do is send loving thoughts that come from the unconditional place of acceptance for both yourself and your partner. You can make sure you are not holding on to any kind of resentments or grudges. You can also make sure you are not blaming your partner for anything that has not been disclosed. You want it to be clean and truly in the heart. Bless the end as you did the beginning.

It is strange when you leave someone you like and love. We are used to anger and guilt. But the results of growth are that you just follow your own intuition and trust it. Like always. People will want to know why but the why for endings is often no more explainable than the why for beginnings. You can’t really explain why. It just is. You just know when it is time.

The words “til death do us part” have always bothered me. It is hard to live in the moment with that hanging over your head. Rarely are people prepared to live up to those words unless they have come together later in life and it is an agreement they already have. They came in knowing they would finish together.

I think love and life are very much like a part in a play. You are onstage while it is your turn and then you leave the stage and go backstage until it is your turn again. Or you go offstage until the next show. You play your part until it is over and then the other players come in to do their part. It is clean and simple. Even when emotions are high and the drama is raging, everyone knows what they are supposed to do and they do it. No one stomps their foot and says “hey, I don’t want to leave the stage”, they exit because it is time. It is what it is.

There is a plan. I am certain of it. We come in knowing we have made certain agreements before hand. I have never gone looking for a relationship. They have just happened when it was time. When the relationship was over I always knew why it had occurred and what I had gone into it for. Sometimes I could see the ending coming before it was even time. Scary stuff if you are attached to “til death do us “.

At the beginning of any relationship I have always had this moment of initial memory-like a recognition that is like from another time and place but not here. I just trust that. My soul understands.Then the relationship unfolds and it is a thing of beauty. It is an opportunity to love and feel and grow and be. It is like two merged astrology charts or a corporation-it is an entity all by itself. It has a life of its own. Like us, that life goes on for as long as the feelings are authentic and the truth of both parners and then it is over. Endings are also things of beauty because they are beginnings and here we are again.

It is another of life’s cycles. It is renewal and rebirth. Personally I feel if a relationship is right. My heart tells me yes or no. Then I make of it what I will. My heart has never steered me wrong. I must have great GPS.

If you let go with love you will be riding a wave of love when you meet your new relationship. Isn’t that what the law of attraction is all about?

I love you.
Alexandra

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